Many of us would reflect on our childhoods as “not that bad” or “pretty good” however, we may still be struggling with relational wounding connected to conditioning from our childhood. Our parents, while good intentioned (or sometimes not), taught us love is transactional, unsafe, or not even available to us. You may wonder why this matters now? Well think of your brain and learning style as a smart phone, you have downloaded many apps on how to relate, how to receive love, and what you need to do to get love. These apps are learned so early that they are the template for your later love style in relationships, and are largely subconscious. Here are 3 ways you may be dealing with power plays in relationships.

Couples Counselingleslie rootFebruary 10, 2020Love Addiction, relational life therapy, relationships, toxic relationships, narcisism, sexual addiction, inner child work, inner child healing Comment

Emotional Moderation

Individuals and couples who struggle with moderation express their reality at one extreme or another making it difficult for partners and others to relate to them. People who struggle with emotional moderation don’t appear to understand what a moderate reality is. They are totally involved or totally detached, totally happy or absolutely miserable. People who lack emotional moderation believe a moderate response to a situation isn’t enough, only too much is enough. This symptom manifests in different ways:

Trauma, Love Addiction, Couples Counselingleslie rootApril 22, 2019pia mellody, terry real, moderate, emotional moderation, couples counseling, couples therapy, codependency, codependency counseling, relational life therapy, sex addiction treatment, borderline personality disorder Comment