When He Thinks She’s Nuts - 5 Ways Out of Polarity and Projection in Relationships

Polarity in relationships can leave us feeling like we married an angry teenager or irresponsible frat boy. Couples take on opposites or even extremes when they act out polarity in relationship. A few examples of polarity include the following: angry parent-rebellious teen, hysterical wife-silent husband, responsible partner-careless mate, angry husband-sweet and loving wife, depressed partner-cheerful spouse, competent over functioning-incompetent under functioning and the list goes on.

Emotional Moderation

Individuals and couples who struggle with moderation express their reality at one extreme or another making it difficult for partners and others to relate to them. People who struggle with emotional moderation don’t appear to understand what a moderate reality is. They are totally involved or totally detached, totally happy or absolutely miserable. People who lack emotional moderation believe a moderate response to a situation isn’t enough, only too much is enough. This symptom manifests in different ways:

Couples Core Negative Image Stepping Out of your "Bad Deal"

Core Negative Image or CNI is our vision of our partners in their most difficult, irrational and least loving moments. When we move into "you always" or "you never" with our partner we are no longer arguing with each other but rather our caricatured version of our partner.